So here they are - 10 ways to identify if you are at OR crossing the line when it comes to Facebook, Google Plus, MySpace, and social networking (and things of that nature) with "old flames". Here they are...
- Regular (daily or several times weekly) contact, either by message or by Instant Messaging (IM'ing) - "I'm just checking in to see how your days going..."
- Reverting to memories of your past with this person - "Remember when we used to date..." stuff.
- Making comments that betray an existing attraction - "You are still beautiful (etc.)..."
- Making comments about your spouse that would be detrimental to them or that express your unhappiness with them, and thus place into question your commitment to him/her.
- Scheduling a get-together either a) without your spouse or b) without the clear agreement, consent, and presence of your spouse.
- Failing to mention your spouse in any conversations or contact.
- IM'ing for long conversations regularly - and frankly, a note - IM'ing your old flame isn't very cool for your relationship with your spouse, regardless of the frequency. Instead, go out to dinner and have long conversations with your spouse!!!
- Feeling the need to exit an IM conversation when your spouse enters the room.
- Feeling a romantic advance from your old flame and NOT sharing it immediately with your spouse - and even continuing to entertain those advances rather than shut it off immediately.
- Continually looking for and anticipating the next conversation with your old flame.
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